Boys Kissing in Birmingham?!?!?!
So this morning, I heard about a great little report 20/20 did on “PDA” (public displays of affection) and peoples’ reactions to it, depending on who’s doing the kissing. They stationed a straight couple kissing, and people laughed, made jokes, haha, blah blah blah. Then they stationed a gay male couple on a bench in Five Points in Birmingham (which is probably the most liberal district in the state of Alabama), and some of the reactions were positive, some were negative, and a couple were downright hysterical: for instance, a woman saw the gay couple snuggling and kissing, etc., and called, yes, 911, the emergency line, and tried to complain.
Crazy.
So I’m about to post this blog, and I figured I’d watch the video…and then I fell off my chair laughing.
The “Kaolin” of “Kaolin and James” is an old friend of mine from high school. I haven’t seen him in a while, but he’s been an actor and model for a while now. Anyway. So I thought I’d share his “national moment” with all of you. He’s on OUR left in the video.
April 28, 2008 at 9:08 pm
So I was only a little ‘grossed out’, would have been really grossed out if it were two ugly guys. But then again, I’m grossed out by straight people PDA. I would have hated seeing the PDA in the restaurant. Ugh.
What I found most interesting about that video was how ignorant Christians are of our own cardinal doctrines. Like that of salvation by grace through faith. The one lady who said “Well…their chances of going to heaven are not looking good if they continue in this lifestyle” is a perfect example of legalism in America. I rest my case.
Which one of the guys did you know? The one on the bench on the left, right? That’s funny, small world.
Joe
April 29, 2008 at 3:29 am
haha, but because they’re hot guys, it’s okay?
i thought it was sweet. i think there are different kinds of PDA, honestly…the kind that bugs the shit out of me is when people start messing with each other in front of me in a check-out line. that’s when i want a gun.
but sitting on a park bench? sweet.
oh, and i know Kaolin, the one on OUR left on the bench.
e-mailed him a little while ago about it.
April 29, 2008 at 3:37 am
I know…my wife was watching me as I posted that comment…
“She was like…whaaaa? It’s okay if they’re attractive??” and looked at me weirdly…
But I’m of the mindset that the more attractive the person is, male or female, the less disgusting ‘gross stuff’ is for them to do in front of me. Those men were obviously attractive, so it’s like…okay…don’t see that everyday…
But if they were 2 Larry the Cable Guys….I might have puked.
This is coming from the guy who only finds Trent Reznor calibur men attractive. In a non…gay…way. If that’s possible.
I still <3 the Christians comments though. They were like cannon fodder for people to reject Jesus b/c of their judgemental example.
Joe
April 29, 2008 at 4:31 am
what i think is interesting is that…and i think this was intentional…the straight couple was full-on making out in the middle of a restaurant. Kaolin & James were really just…canoodling. i don’t even consider that PDA, really. that, to me, is pretty normal.
oh, and there no non-gay way to find Trent Reznor attractive. it comes with the “finding Trent Reznor” attractive territory. but it’s okay, because you’re not the only straight guy who’s gay for Trent Reznor.
April 29, 2008 at 5:18 pm
The men were nuzzling and places like a public park or a museum are where couples kiss. I hate to see dry humping or rubbing breasts and genitals in public during the day. But if this were a straight couple, my guess is: it would take even more than that for those same people to react or call 911. 20/20 were demonstrating a double standard that we all know exists.
April 29, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Yep.
What they were doing was really completely within the bounds of normal. You’re out with your significant other, you’re in love, you’re sitting on a park bench, you’re affectionate.
That’s not even really…i mean, by DEFINITION, it’s a Public Display of Affection, but really, when people say that, they mean people pawing all over each other in public, in a gross or obnoxious way.
I think that’s kind of 20/20’s point. We’re going to put a gay couple being totally innocuous (and also, they going to be hot…haha), and see how people react.
I dunno. I’ve always been of the mindset that, if i’m with somebody, and I want to hold their hand, I’m going to, and if some fuckhead teenager says something, then fuck ‘em.
April 29, 2008 at 9:03 pm
yea, i got a man crush on trent reznor too, joe.
i’m talking about “with teeth” and after trent reznor though…not druggy “the downward spiral” trent reznor…
wait, do you count looks in a man crush or is it just supposed to be personality and character traits that are taken into consideration in a bro-mance?
shit…i’ve been out at sea too long.
April 29, 2008 at 9:05 pm
“because you’re not the only straight guy who’s gay for Trent Reznor”
have you been talking to tracy? because she still makes fun of me for that. ONE TIME i said i’d go down on him.
ONE FUCKING TIME.
April 29, 2008 at 10:36 pm
“wait, do you count looks in a man crush”
Oh, I think looks play a part. I mean, straight guys don’t tend to get man-crushes on Larry King, you know.
“have you been talking to tracy? because she still makes fun of me for that. ONE TIME i said i’d go down on him.”
hahahahaha, you never told me that.
April 29, 2008 at 10:40 pm
You can get a man crush on anyone really. Looks aren’t that important, because I don’t know what it’s like to be physically attracted to men. Not consciously at least. Trent looks good, but his musical ability is a huge boost. Downward Spiral Trent is hot musically, not physically though. With Teeth and Year Zero Trent is great. Though I don’t listen to him anylonger….he’s too political now, drives me nuts.
Joe
April 30, 2008 at 7:24 am
but i’m down with his politics, so it just gives me a bigger…crush.
and yea, looks are that important…cause if i go gay, then i want any female i have to explain myself to say “oh, well at least i can see the attraction” rather than “ew, you fucked david gest?”
April 30, 2008 at 7:38 am
and by crush he means “manboner.”